Simply put….you cannot change what’s already happened. And truthfully, you don’t need to.
The past served its purpose. It revealed what love meant to you, how much you were willing to pour into someone, and what you were prepared to lose just to keep something that mattered. It showed you your depth, your loyalty, and your capacity to forgive, even when you were the one left hurting.
But now comes the harder part….letting it stay in the past.
Because if you are honest, you have been standing still.
Breathing….Yes! Functioning….Yes!
But you are not fully living.
You have spent many days trying to make sense of what broke.
Nights lying awake thinking about what could have been different.
And countless moments hoping they would come back changed….or at least say the words that would bring peace to your chest.
However, here is the hard truth many avoid….
Some people were never meant to stay.
They were part of your becoming, not your forever.
And even though your heart may still feel something so deep and whisper their name in the quiet, you know it is time to redirect your energy….not as a denial of love, but as an act of self-respect.
“When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what the storm is all about.” ~ Haruki Murakami
The important lesson here is that your healing begins when you choose to build yourself, not stay tied to something that steals your peace and freedom.
You must honour yourself in full truth….the good, the painful, the fear, and the reality of where you stand today….in this moment. All of it deserves your compassion, not your avoidance.
Your life was never meant to revolve around someone else’s presence or absence.
You are not a supporting character in someone else’s journey. You are the author of your own….the main character!
When you keep looking back, you miss what is right in front of you….peace, clarity, opportunities, genuine love, and soul-led adventure. And none of that can truly meet you while you are still emotionally anchored to what has already passed.
Let yourself grieve, not just the person, but the future you imagined with them.
Then gently, and without guilt, begin imagining a new one. One where you travel again.
Where laughter finds its way back into your days. Where you fall in love with your morning coffee, your evening walks, your dreams, and eventually, someone who sees you as the blessing you are.
Freedom doesn’t always come with fanfare. Sometimes it arrives as a quiet knowing.
A whisper in your soul that says, “You’re allowed to move on now.”
And that voice….that sacred inner voice is God reminding you that your story is not over. It is, in fact, just turning the page.
The version of you that is emerging is not bitter. Not broken.
It is bold, awake, and honest. You are allowed to hold the memories without letting them hold you. You are allowed to look back fondly, but walk forward fully. It is time for you to trust your path, even when you do not see every step. Understand that the One who holds your future walks with you today….Amen.
Continue to honour your feelings, and do not allow them to hold you prisoner. Rise above them with grace and courage. You are ready to love and be loved with joy, not fear. You are ready to live, to risk, to laugh, to dance, to explore this sacred life again.
This season is about returning to yourself.
Rediscovering what lights you up.
Opening your arms wide enough to welcome what’s next, without dragging what was.
You are here to live a vibrant, meaningful story built on truth….your truth.
And that truth includes freedom.
It includes love.
It includes new beginnings….ones that do not need fixing, chasing, or proving.
It includes someone who meets you where you are, not where you had to fight to be seen.
So, take a deep breath….and say it out loud: “I am ready.”
Ready to live. Ready to love. Ready to rise again.
Keep believing….
Live Your Life Now
Sava Politis
