There comes a time when you look around and realise you have given so much to everyone else, yet still feel unseen, unsupported, and quietly forgotten. An outsider!
You were the reliable one. The strong one. The one who kept showing up with love, even while carrying your own silent aches. You became the glue, holding people together without anyone truly checking if you were okay. Because deep down you are struggling, feeling overwhelmed, and yet so alone. And now? There is a deep and persistent question echoing in your soul….Where’s my village?
You are not asking for the world. You are not craving crowds or applause. You are yearning for presence. For safety. For connection. The kind of connection that doesn’t walk away when things get messy. The kind that doesn’t expect you to earn love through performance or perfection. The kind that doesn’t use and betray you.
This is a hard truth to face, especially when you have spent so long being everything for everyone. It leaves you wondering why love feels so one-sided. Why the people you showed up for never learned how to show up for you.
Well, the important lesson here is that you are not here to carry the weight of the world. You are here to be loved in the same way you love….deeply, faithfully, and without conditions.
You have carried pain that was never yours to carry. You did it because you cared. Because your heart is wired for loyalty. You believed that being the dependable one gave you value. You took on burdens out of love, but love was never meant to weigh you down.
Love was never meant to hurt you.
You are not responsible for the choices others made.
You are not to blame for their distance, their silence, or their lack of emotional presence.
You were never not enough.
You were simply too honest, too deep, too present for those who were not ready.
That weight in your chest? That ache behind your eyes? It’s not weakness. It’s the exhaustion of trying to hold together what was never yours to fix. It’s the toll of staying loyal to people who never offered loyalty in return. Even after all the heartbreak, you still believe in love. That alone is strength. That alone is hope.
“You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep others warm.”
~ Unknown
That’s not failure….that’s your strength speaking.
Because through all the heartbreak, you have kept your heart open. You have shown up when it mattered. You have spoken with tenderness and truth. And even in your loneliest moments, the pain runs so deep that loneliness feels unbearable, and numbness becomes your way of coping.
That tells me everything about who you truly are.
You are the Wounded Healer. The person who carries deep scars. The one who loves deeply and still believes that kindness can change the world. Your longing for a village does not make you weak. It makes you real….authentic.
And here’s the part no one told you….your village does not begin with others. The truth of the matter is that it begins with you.
Every time you choose to show up without abandoning yourself.
Every time you release someone who couldn’t love you properly.
Every time you speak your truth without apologising for your depth.
That’s how the village starts.
It begins with your decision to be honest, gentle, present, and whole….without waiting for permission.
It begins the moment you no longer feel the need to explain, justify, or defend yourself….your choices, your actions, or even the parts of your life that still feel unfinished….to anyone. It begins when you trust who you are….the perfect imperfections and genuine uniqueness that is you.
It deepens when you allow your beautiful heart to be seen….not just the graceful parts, but the real, raw, and honest parts too. You begin to draw in people who don’t just take from your energy but pour back into your spirit. People who love with presence, not performance. Those who show up with consistency, not convenience. People who honour you the same way you have learned to honour yourself.
As you grow in self-worth, your time becomes blessed. Your relationships become intentional. You start choosing connection over obligation, depth over surface, peace over performance. And without even realising it, the boredom, pressure, and expectations that once weighed you down quietly fall away.
In their place, clarity rises.
You begin to sense what no longer belongs….what drains you, disrespects you, or disguises itself as love. You recognise what is toxic, fake, and unworthy of your heart. And in doing so, you protect the sacred space of your inner village….the one you are finally learning to build with love, wisdom, and truth.
And when the ache returns….as it sometimes will….simply breathe. Because your healing is happening. You are building the love you have always wanted and deserved. You are becoming the person you once needed. You are calling in the ones who will honour your soul, as you continue to honour your soul.
You are not alone anymore. You are coming home….a home that is more than a feeling. It’s your Village of Faith, Love, Hope, and Forgiveness.
Keep believing….
Sava
