Life is one big classroom, filled with abundant amounts of blessings, miracles, opportunities, challenges, and adversities. All of which are lessons.
No one likes being in a state of feeling helpless, lost, and hopeless; but it happens. And as I reflect on my past struggles and challenges, I can truly say how grateful I am to have experienced an extremely dark and difficult period in my life, and still learning more and more about who I am even as I type this blog. This period of my life is explained in more detail in another blog. However, in short….I was living a life trying to please everyone and lost my connection with my inner spark. And then, on a Saturday morning in November 2017, I woke up and slowly walked to the bathroom mirror. Standing there looking at my reflection, I experienced pure, intense sadness, hatred, fear and darkness; I absolutely hated what I saw and what I felt about myself and my life. I was empty, numb, lost and so scared.
I’ve learnt and continue to learn so much about myself, others and life. We never stop learning as we never stop growing until we take our last breath. You learn to be more patient with yourself, more kind to yourself, and patiently learn to detach yourself from things that are out of your control. Detaching from the expectations and outcomes.
There comes a time in your life when you have to take a real good, and deep look inside yourself and ask, “What do I want?”. Not only what it is but understanding the essence of what you desire in your life. The feelings; the joys; the happiness; the passions; the love; and ultimately what makes you feel free. Understanding what you don’t want and who you are not. I am not talking about the material things here, like a luxury car or a nice house. No! This is about what is deep inside your heart and soul. What makes your heart sing with passion, with love and joy? Re-connecting with and feeling the rhythm and beat of your heart. This is where your talents and gifts are; your light and gold….your treasures for the world to see and experience. All driven and actioned by you….YOUR SPARK.
So, what lowers your inner spark?
The truth is that it is you. You are responsible and impact the intensity of your spark. You may think, feel and blame that it is others or external events or the weather etc. You may even blame your current situation and status on your past, present and future! You are responsible and accountable for your emotions and how you choose to respond. We are our own worst critic, judge, jury and executioner! It’s difficult at the best of times, however, it’s important to change your mindset; your original program on thinking and visualising how things “can’t” happen for you, and surfacing all the excuses to go with this negative mindset. Removing any doubts you have placed about yourself and your life. You learn to continually trust in yourself; trust the process; trust the moments; trust God and continually grow your faith and patients.
Our expectations attach themselves to day-to-day events. Instead, live your life knowing that everything, every moment, every chance meeting….they are all happening for you. Let go of what is and isn’t happening, or what you have and haven’t got in your life. You have high expectations of yourself, and push to get the results you expect….from others and yourself.
Live knowing that it is all happening for you. Everything presented in your life is supposed to happen.
Let it be, and live with the flow of life, not against it.
Not everyone needs to know your deepest dreams and desires. That’s yours to own and protect in your own, unique way. When you tell the world all your dreams and desires deep in your heart, you are actually building up your ego. Your ego grows as you share and communicate with the world, your inner deep desires, seeking approval or validation. By keeping your deep desires to yourself, you build trust and confidence in yourself. You do not have the hunger or thirst to tell everyone. You validate and trust your own heart, and not the approval of others. I’m not saying keep everything private here, as it’s very healthy for you to communicate with others. I’m talking about your deep, deep-core dreams and desires. Your security code is in your heart!
Things and people will enter your life that may be presented to you as “different”. The key here is to be open-minded and connect with your intuition. As you continue to connect with your heart and soul, synchronistic events begin happening more and more for you. So be aware of them and embrace them. Pay attention to how it’s making you feel and what they are teaching you. These are all aligned with your core desires passions and purpose. No one else’s….just you! Acknowledge all of them with love and gratitude.
Life doesn’t owe you anything; there’s no “favour” to you. Avoid thinking that everything should be gifted to you. Understand that your growth; your manifestation is not owed to you. This all happens and flows naturally for you as you continually align and connect with yourself in faith, love, hope and forgiveness. It is a very dangerous belief to have, thinking and believing that because of who you are, or what you have gone through….that life owes you a break or good stuff. Absolutely not!
You must go out there and be true to yourself, and live your life in faith, love, hope and forgiveness…your inner peace, balance and harmony.
All the challenges, obstacles and hardships in your life are all lessons. They are not signals to you of being a failure. There is no such thing as failure, only progress. Failures provide you with excellent opportunities to discover different ways of achieving what you want, and what you do not want. See past mistakes or setbacks as stepping stones towards achieving successful results, connections, and relationships. We automatically have built into our minds this fear of failure. Being ridiculed, losing money, judged, embarrassed etc etc. When you continue to align with your core dreams, passions, and desires, you become grateful that “failure” is an integral part of your life’s journey. When things don’t go as intended or “your bad luck”; understand the importance and power of asking yourself “what is this teaching me?”. Instead of the normal, victim response of….“why me?”
You have all the resources within you to solve any of your problems….remember that!
Judgement brings fear, anxiety, anger and stress into your life, and your body.
The important message here is to release any judgement from your life. It’s a daily process!
Avoid labelling people and circumstances in your life as “good” or “bad”. Detach yourself from the limiting beliefs you have built up that no longer serve your purpose. More importantly, they impede you from achieving your dreams and desires….your authentic self. This also includes detaching yourself from your original blueprint of how your life should be. The joyous childhood, school, finding and marrying the love of your life, kids, great house, success and good health etc. Life isn’t one straight, clear and effortless path filled with sunshine, amazing scenery and money trees. Life is filled with mountains, steep paths, bumpy roads, four seasons, light and darkness, loss and pain. Life is filled with so many lessons all for your growth; such as your resilience, persistence, courage, wisdom, and integrity.
I remember reading that as you judge, you alter your energy and hence impact the synchronicities and flow of what you attract into your life. This is so true! Instead, keep an open mind to what is being presented to you. Live for the moments and be grateful for the simple things in life. The challenge is to stop judging, comparing and labelling everything based on your past, your limiting beliefs and expectations. This even includes comparing your life and status with others. The wisdom here is that you are the author, hero and director of your life story. There is absolutely no benefit whatsoever, of you handing over the pen, cape, and camera to someone else.
This is your life to live….
As you step away from judgement, you may experience a sense of loss or loneliness, and expand your own perceptions. You learn to understand and accept that other people’s perceptions and judgements are theirs; not yours to own and take ownership of. Learn to accept all that arrives and leaves your life. Grief and loss is the healing process that allows you to recognise what it means to you and what it is teaching you.
Having and maintaining a positive attitude is paramount. It enables you to stop manifesting excuses as to why things aren’t and won’t happen to you. Telling yourself and others that you’re too old; not smart enough; you’re unlucky; Why me, and That’s life! Instead, be kind and patient with yourself. Living with continued trust in yourself, your faith, and the world you live in. Being grateful for all aspects of your life; especially in the morning when you open your eyes and know you are alive for another day….your blessing. Being grateful at the end of the day, for all the events, circumstances, opportunities, lessons, blessings and miracles.
Life should not be taken for granted. God willing, we all have 86,400 seconds every day. And you are responsible and accountable for all the choices and decisions you make every day your heart beats. Do what you need to do for yourself first….as they say, there’s no point in living if you don’t feel alive. Know that you are a free spirit; and your inner spirit “sparks” daily, allowing you to connect deeper with yourself and what is present for you.
What kind of a world do you want to live in; a hostile world, or a loving one?
You have a choice!
Life is one big, adventurous classroom, and you are not only the student but also the teacher. Continuing to learn from your yesterday’s, enabling you to make better choices and decisions today for your outstanding self, family, friends and this beautiful world we all live in. Keep believing in yourself, and live your life in faith, love, hope and forgiveness….your inner peace.
“Lessons in life will be repeated until they are learned.” ~ Frank Sonnenberg
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